Dreams and Goals....

 Today I watched a movie called "Charlet Girl".  Movie was about an ordinary girl who tries to win snowboard competition. She misses her dead mother, who always told her; 'You have brains in your head,  you have feet in your shoes, you can steer your life in any direction you choose. I did understand that concept but I dont completely agree this.

We will have complete control on our life steering when we are single but not as a wife or as a mother. This role demands lot of commitment, compromises and sacrifices. Recently I attended an interview and they agreed to offer me a job. I had to give up on this dream opportunity because of my family. I had brains, I had feet in my shoe but steering is not in my control anymore or I can put this way, load on steering is more.I need to be very careful and think twice before starting a new journey on new path. I realised, in this movie her mother told her because she might have done similar sacrifices for family and trying something through her. I reckon telling similar stuff with my daughter. Mothers try to weave their dreams into their kids dreams. Having brain and shoe is not enough, we need strong support from family to steer in the direction that we choose. Mother who is highly ambitious but lack support try to pass on her dreams and inspire her kids to achieve them. If she cant fulfill her dreams, she will try to keep it alive as far as she can.

Dreams evolve with time. What was my goal in past will not have same weightage or value for present situation. I always wanted to be in technically challenging job and invent something from scratch. It can be a design or complete product. But that dosent fancy me anymore. The reason could be I was overconfident about myself or I am not determined or it might be totally impractical goal for me. When I was little I never dreamt of having my own house or car. Very later stage of my career I realised I do need comfort and then when I started working towards that but I dint reach till there. Very soon I realised that I am not materialistic. I dont want to stick to one place. I dont want to confine myself to a boundary. At that moment my dreams changed to traveling around world, meet different people, understand different culture. At the same time, I wanted to give good education to my daughter. I wanted her to have good foundation. So once again I changed my dreams a bit. Instead of travelling around world, stick to a place where education part is satisfied but at the same time we can do bit of travelling aswell.

I feel when you are on your own you can achieve your dreams and goals easily but not when you have somebody beside you. But at the same time , we need not stop dreaming. Change your dreams and goals which fits well to lead a healthy family life. As family demands changes, change or align dreams accordingly. You will be happy and have happy environment around you. Happy dreaming....